when an angel friend plans to replace you

This post is rather than just a post but also a strange experience which like me anyone of you ( or many among you) has experienced. I definitely miss the time of 80's when we don't have any social networks and mobile applications which we could use to strengthen our friendships but they were!

No doubt social networks, mobile and its applications make conversations convenient but I feel like it said "excess of everything is bad' similar thing happen with over socializing. When I open any social network, what I found there? I can talk anyone around the world, billions of people are available to talk, chat and  for friendship.

Its not bad at all to make friends but the problem which I feel that when you have billions of available people and you have added 1000+ people in your friends list. The good people surely ignored.

Than people are treated like commodities,you are easily removed or replaced by the other. It hurts!  

Here I am warning all of my readers to keep it in mind that friendship is a noble relation and not everyone could understand how others' feel when you suddenly replace or remove a person from your friendship list or from your life.

Here are some key clues to guess when someone is thinking to replace you.

• suddenly your friend has a very tough schedule and its not possible for him to contact you in 24 hours. He gave you late replies and give the same excuse that due to busy routine he can't manage but innerly he is confused or hesitating to replace you. He is taking some time to make himself comfortable to do so. ( here I am discussing on-line friends mostly so If your friend who meet you often may be doing so for any other reason but mostly you will find this excuse for sure).
• getting social with other friends and visiting new places and spending much time with other friends. (link it with the above one as they said its a tough schedule :) but it is just for you).He keep himself away from you and making it his habit.
• The severe reaction which is may be the last one is abuse and insult. After each session he may say its because of disturb routine or worried by some issues and with time their excuse ratio reduce and just insult comes in your share.
• no reply text,calls and that person is completely absent from your life.

  Its hard experience you know all it or don't. I really don't know its good to know or not as if you are walking with a person who is losing grip of your hand and you knew it from begining till he finally leave, its worse. But knowing help you to satisfy your mind and soul what other has done to you. What actually happened in your relationship or friendship.

hoping we use social networks, mobile and its apps to strengthen our relations rather than playing with each others feelings and loyalty. 

xoxo 

over goodness! is the sign of good soul or wickness

Miss Marry entered in her boss's office and every time her boss says that I am satisfied that I have never done anything wrong with anyone. Well! that was not true. Miss Marry saw and she is the witness of her bad nature, how she misbehaved with others, how she abused her staff before terminate them. She was surprised that how she could repeat a statement which is not true.

when I was student, I read a short stories ( obviously I don't remember its tittle but!) It was about a family who spoke so nicely and claimed again and again that they could never harm or hurt anyone but at the end they suggested the robber to rob their neighbor's house.

 In case of Marry's boss, she satisfy herself with  her own statements as she knew how others' consider her.

It could be her voice of her soul that she is not satisfied and knew her deeds and try to convince others but actually! she is trying to satisfy herself.

The other reason could be such people are gossip makers or talkative. They think that they can convince others just on the basis of conversation. It is said that if something said again and again, it stuck in others' minds and somehow they start believing it. Most of them may not accept but they become comfortable with the statement.This kind of people are comparatively wicked than Miss Marry's boss.

Some people pretend to maintain their status in the society and say nice words so people just know their good things and words and don't focus on their flaws and bad habits.

There is another category of people who use nice dealing as a office language and its a profit making tool for them. whatever they say, It doesn't matter much because mostly they don't mean to it.

good dealing is no doubt a good skill but their nature and their body language could tell you their complete biography. 

How anger harm you?

Its a wise saying that when you are in anger, you lose your wisdom. Another saying which really deeply impressed me is " Never take any decision in anger" What actually anger does with you.

When you are angry,

The first thing which takes you on the loss path is you are emotional on that time and not really understanding the situation. You have to see all the pros and coins before taking any final decision. Suppose you are annoyed to a person whom you care about, now if you call every time and fight and insult him/her. what would be the result?? Of course you lose the battle. YOU DIDN'T PLANNED ANYTHING. You are not in a position to understand what is going on there, why someone is doing so and is he/she doing intentionally or unintentionally. Don't you think it would be better to let you anger cooled down. Take a drive, visit a friend ( do whatever you think can make you feel better) and when you are relax, now you are in position to do some thing which is in your favor.

The things you do in anger always favor your enemies:

There are many negative comments are in our mind which we kept secret in our hearts. When you are angry, It might possible that whatever you think about someone, you express your views publicly. ( There may be someone who use your words against you ). You're emotional on that time and its possible that you don't mean it but once you said something publicly. Now its your views ( there is no space for emotions).

Worse idea to start discussion on calls, texts and emails:

Anger is linked to emotions and I think this heading is for ladies especial. They start discussing on calls, send hurt text and emails. which just wilder the distance between them. I saw many of my friends that when they feel ignore or hurt. They keep calling, send many texts and emails about how I taken you and see what you have rewarded me etc.We all are in different places, different thoughts and situations when you start a serious discussion from a distance. There are plenty of chances that your words are taken wrong or he/she may start ignoring you more. Always try to not to use this idea.better to ask them to meet you.

Stop conversation with someone:

When we fight with someone or having any issue with them. We stop talking with them and make a third person a spokesman on our behalf. Now it become impossible that your complain could be heard or understand as the third person may tell you actual facts or may he create story by his own. Everyone has their own interests and its the best time to achieve it when you are no longer have contact with someone.

Isn't it better to keep yourself calm and understand things. get the clear picture of the situation. After it whatever you do or decide. you're sure that you are not going to regret it!

DO SOCIAL MEDIA HELP US TO TURN CLOSE OR INCREASE THE GAP!

WE'RE THE PEOPLE WHO SAW THE DEVELOPMENT OF INTERNET IN DECADE OR MORE THAN THE DECADE. I PERSONAL FEEL ITS COMFORT WHEN IT STARTED AVAILABLE ON ECONOMICAL RATES. NOW I CAN CONTACT ANYONE AROUND THE WORLD ON THE CAST OF ALMOST NOTHING. HOW MUCH IT BECOME EASY FOR ME. BUTTTT! DO IT HELP ME AND YOU TO TURN CLOSER TO EACH OTHER OR INCREASED THE GAP WILDER!

There was a time when I have to buy a calling card or net card which has a limited time and we have to consume it with caution. We have to arrange our preferences, whom to call first, which mail is compulsory to send today.I remember when my aunt's family was moving to England and I went to market on that eve and wondering what I want to say, I wanted to talk to each person of than family and what a excitement and warmness I had on that time. Unless now when we call, its free as we all prefer to call through  net. here are the number of negative impacts of social media on our lives along with its convenience.

• LACK OF ATTENTION: 

     We may try to contact each other more often but others irritate with it. Sometimes they take it               as unnecessary calls and texts. You may face lack of attention and no responses.

• Depression: 

 People show themselves so happy even more than their actual life.Viewing all the time their updates, make you feel like you are the only one who is suffering or may be comparatively far away than your friends. It disturb you and decrease your efficiency.

• DOUBTS AND SPY ON EACH OTHER:

We all must admit that we spy on our close one's profile,who is commenting on their posts. Over spying and doubting destroy your relation. There you may find most of the time those people who he/she never talk about but on social media they are talking too much. When you mention it to him/her, sometimes they don't bother much to stop which make you feel so low.

• OVER SOCIAL:

Some cases are quite worse, Its more in teenagers and bachelors who almost daily upload their picture and counting their likes and comments. They are more interested in quantity rather than quality. Those who are close to them, surely feel ignorance as such people are quite interested in their praise and have less time to communicate.  

Mostly it happens that when you comment on your friends post, his/her friend whom you don't know respond you, like your comment and start chat publicly.Such people not only disturb your friend but also you may not go smooth with such unknown friends of friend.

• FAKE PEOPLE AND FAKE ACCOUNTS:

Many people have fake accounts or bad intentions. If you have or you are a teenager than you must know that. and its really risky to contact people you may not know. kidnappings, reaps, robberies are planned on such accounts.

• WASTAGE OF TIME: 

We become so much addicted to net that we're online all the time. Mostly we are doing nothing, scrolling and scrolling. We don't do any thing productive in all that time. May be we are waiting for someone to on-line 

If you are suffering from all above or some of them then you're using it more than required. Excess of everything is bad and we must use it as much that our and our family & close relations don't disturb or weak. Only than Social media don't harm you otherwise you don't know what your close ones thinking, your children, wife and friends may need you but you are busy on net. Its better to talk first to those who are sitting beside you. physically present but you may feel you are alone in cafe' or in room. Set your preferences first and keep your life healthy. :) 

How many details are in someone's photo???

Surprised! yes you can get a very valid detail by viewing someone picture. If you have one or few pictures,you would be amazed to know, you could judge some features of their personality quite easily.

Our pictures are one of the keys which tell some of the details of our personalities. suppose you are not much familiar with the person but if you are interested to know someone on social media, its somehow their display pic which give you an idea to move forward or backward.

Their are a few categories of display pictures on net.

A number of people use a display pic where they are standing far away and not much focused. In their back ground, its hills, lakes, forests, well known places.Such people has a number of reasons to have such display pic. The first impression of them is they are quite simple people (where a casual dress, quite simple and thinks that the greenery is making their pic quite wonderful.) The other reason is quite opposite. if they have a privacy on their pics and displayed such pic which is not focused,it means they're less interested to interact with strangers and don't want to be known as publicly.  

An other category of those people who display pics with their families, holding a kid or with family or friends. ( I love them most of all ) as it tells that such people value their friends and family a lot. They don't try to show them single if they are not. These people are quite sincere and we can relay on them.

Now we must address those people who put quotes, images instead of their own pics. One reason is the same like not focused people. they don't want to be known as publicly. There are much chances of a fake account as well. Some regions are still where girls don't feel much secure to display their own picture and scared that her picture may be misused by someone.

The most popular dp(display pictures) are which are edited and used different styles, collages. Such pictures are quite famous in teenagers and single people but any one could use them. Such people are quite creative and want to be appreciated by others. They are beauty lovers and appreciate glamor and beauty.

Some researches give value to face features as well. Normally wider eyes says a person is quite open minded and has a big heart. while a small eyes are considered as narrow, conservative mind or you can say traditional mind.Small tiny lips are considered as unromantic people while prominent filled lips are taken as romantic people.( its some things I have heard :)) 
If you like my posts. do comment on them and share you views about display pics. Is my blog help you in understanding a fellow.
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The Mystery Of Broken Heart

pity pity the human heart not only pumps the blood through the whole body but it pumps pain and disappointments also...i m not a writer but a very keen observer and i have observed that all our pains are related to our wishes and hopes. Obviously when we fail and we fail often, the broken pieces of our wishes makes the heart bleed. We humans can do nothing in this regard, neither we stop wishing nor we can stop heart beating, But during the span of our life we just fall then rise and this continues till death. Its always a broken heart that snatches every positive aspect of life and left you no where, sometimes even friends and family can do nothing. I don"t know what heals a heart so broken. hmmm well people say that its the TIME that heals everything but no one exactly know how much time you need as people are different, their response to things is also different. For those who are CARELESS or LAZY does not complicate things while those who stuck themselves in the situation require a lots of time may be a FULL life! 
Besides these extremes there is a bottom line in which the majority falls, those who require mostly a month or months to get rid of all the pain. The person who can make you better its no other but YOU , only you can make the person in the mirror smile. 
If you want a helper in your bad times make sure it should have the guts to help you out otherwise solitude is your best companion!

Abusive nature! what are the causes for such behavior

Why some people try to abusive others publicly, sarcastic, try to make them feel inferior or embarrass.What would be the goals, aims and objectives.  How to cope with them.

We all would met someone who has the same nature.Who always try to make you embarrass in public.You would think what the hell I have done to them. Why every time he/she treat me in such a way.what she get by it.

I know a lady who whenever upset or have anger on me.She start trying to abuse me in front of people.She never feel that what people would say about her as she is rude,abusive not me.let me share a few line to tell what she do "you wouldn't do this task efficiently, let it give to miss ..., " "they don't respect you and listen you, ask miss xx she would convince them well" " can you do some thing right"

isn't it rude but she is not always like that. sometimes I really do mistakes but she cover them. Then what happen to her that she do such things.

what I have observed! let me tell you the reasons of such rude responses.

• first reason is having any kind of complain and they can't tell you directly due to professional barriers. so instead of telling or sharing you directly. They try such things as a revenge.
• second reason is jealousy and having inferior complex. you have brighter ideas than them and they don't like you to lead them. so they try to point out that things which they think, could harm your image.
• third reason is want to keep their hold on you. don't want you to feel relax and comfortable with them.

As I have faced all such things. Their are few things which really could work.

•  The people who try to make others embarrass, Normally deeply feel scare of facing such situation. If you don't like to abuse others. You can deny them.
• You can put a question in a very humble and gentle way, like"why you think so? "or" why you have such views about me". Normally such people don't like to show that they hate you 
• Never take it serious. They normally try to create a conflict and trying to pump you. If you are giving a smile and giving jolly answers or taking such harsh words like you don't care or you don't take it serious. trust me it discourage them more than any thing

At the end I must admit that nature can't be changed. You can deal them, cope with the hurdles but may be they keep on doing. try the suggestions. it may make such people manageable for you.At least don't give them open ground!  

you are sincere,true and loving,Is its not working???

If you love someone and you are quite pure and honest but you found that other person is ignoring or not responding you the same as you deserve. Here are the few reasons which could be behind it.

There is a difference in our natures. Even if male say they like a girl who is so down to earth but innerly they like a girl who has a self respect and don't be so chasing personality. What you can do is to talk nicely every time you meet and be a pleasant in nature. It always attract people toward you. Everyone like such personality. You must have patience and acceptance all the time and under any kind of circumstances.

I want to share here a saying of friend,

"you only love someone,only when you love yourself first"

Mostly good dealing put a very positive impact on other. Try to put things together natural like you were searching a book in library, waiting for someone in cafe' or eating a meal there. (even if its not true :) ) 

Now if despites of  all of your efforts if still its not working than there might be few reason behind it:

• few men are not interesting in having a serious relationship, their focus might be on their career or on their financial crisis. They are interesting in having a temporary relationship and don't like a girl who is giving a serious relationship signal.

• They have a recent breakup and really not in mood to go into another drill.As much you are chasing them as much they are likely to run.

• Men mostly attract towards looks before loyal feelings and purity. Its quite reasonable as well. As a lady you must be well dressed and well maintained. They could respect you for your loyalty but unless you don't care yourself and have an appealing personality. It quite possible that they are not mad about you. It doesn't mean you have a sexual appeal. Decent look always effort more. occasionally you can try a little glamorous look but in routine you must have a decent look.

• Is he already interesting in someone than it can be possible that your efforts and love don't work on him as his interest is in someone else. Thats something which is quite hard to cover and more chances are that you have to change your mind instantly as if you try to replace someone whom has been in his life already. you not only lose him but he may dislike or hate you for throwing away him from someone he love. 

• Some has a traditional mind and they believe that the person who marry or have a relation with him could adjust with the family and they are less interested in relationships as they consider their parents approval and comfort more than any other thing.
• Regional, Religious and cultural differences ( which I had less considered but with time got to know they also play an important role before someone think about you..

Remember one thing, when you show your feelings and emotions to someone and they are true. true feelings always have a magical impact on other's heart. Its not possible that he knew about it and in his 24hrs or 24/7 (in his week) he would never thought about you. He did, and any of the above reason could be the hurdle in your way. As you are independent in selecting someone, he is also free to choose you or not. You must have at least such courage that you express your feelings and than wait.. let him decide!

Read other's personality in first meeting

"Its not hart to know others or meet them months. you can understand them in their first meeting.All you have to do is to just focus!"

Most of my friends and colleagues asked me how I get the idea of their personalities in my first conversation.Here I am going to share some of the key points which give you a clear picture of people.

• Be a good greeter:  you must be friendly and soft spoken.your tune and style make others comfortable to talk with you. you must attain their attention and desire to talk to you. Only than its possible to know them.

• let them share their thoughts: Start with their thoughts, you can put any current topic in conversation and ask them to comment on it. Most people take it as you are interesting to know their opinions. :) yes you are but remember you are interested to know their opinions which tell you how they take things, what kind of mind they have, conservative, open mind, optimistic or pessimistic..etc. women's education, role of religion, equality in gender, responsibilities relate to men and women. Once you select the topic go always on the opposite in their opinion. let them try to convince you. Their all thoughts and opinions will come in front of you.

 Remember if they listen quite politely, it shows their tolerance and acceptance towards others and their opinions.

• Next level is to test their emotions:

ask about their personal problems, emotions, relations, breakups, miss someone in life etc and check how much they are sentimental or emotional. an average or standard emotional is good in any kind of relationship,no matter its official or personal.

• Ask them to give you suggestions: ask them to suggest you things about your future,job,career etc. check how they direct you.you know better whats better to you. share your idea as well and then see how they respond.

 these points could help you to draw the first rough sketch of once's personality. you can decide by them what kind of human one could be. keep in mind don't treat the other like a journalist. don't be so clear. if other get the idea that what you are doing. you may not be as much successful. your style look like you love gossip. you are friendly and like to talk on all kinds of topics. all levels which I have shared may help in all of the relations or some of one them.select them according to requirement. One thing more< don't be so fast! you can get the idea quickly but it depends on the situation and surrounding. its ok if it takes time or days.remember that no one is perfect in this world,it just whom you carry long in life. you better know them well before taking them seriously!