Abusive nature! what are the causes for such behavior

Why some people try to abusive others publicly, sarcastic, try to make them feel inferior or embarrass.What would be the goals, aims and objectives.  How to cope with them.

We all would met someone who has the same nature.Who always try to make you embarrass in public.You would think what the hell I have done to them. Why every time he/she treat me in such a way.what she get by it.

I know a lady who whenever upset or have anger on me.She start trying to abuse me in front of people.She never feel that what people would say about her as she is rude,abusive not me.let me share a few line to tell what she do "you wouldn't do this task efficiently, let it give to miss ..., " "they don't respect you and listen you, ask miss xx she would convince them well" " can you do some thing right"

isn't it rude but she is not always like that. sometimes I really do mistakes but she cover them. Then what happen to her that she do such things.

what I have observed! let me tell you the reasons of such rude responses.

• first reason is having any kind of complain and they can't tell you directly due to professional barriers. so instead of telling or sharing you directly. They try such things as a revenge.
• second reason is jealousy and having inferior complex. you have brighter ideas than them and they don't like you to lead them. so they try to point out that things which they think, could harm your image.
• third reason is want to keep their hold on you. don't want you to feel relax and comfortable with them.

As I have faced all such things. Their are few things which really could work.

•  The people who try to make others embarrass, Normally deeply feel scare of facing such situation. If you don't like to abuse others. You can deny them.
• You can put a question in a very humble and gentle way, like"why you think so? "or" why you have such views about me". Normally such people don't like to show that they hate you 
• Never take it serious. They normally try to create a conflict and trying to pump you. If you are giving a smile and giving jolly answers or taking such harsh words like you don't care or you don't take it serious. trust me it discourage them more than any thing

At the end I must admit that nature can't be changed. You can deal them, cope with the hurdles but may be they keep on doing. try the suggestions. it may make such people manageable for you.At least don't give them open ground!