if you're hurt. let me say to you..

there is a dozen of memories you have for the one who don't remember it now. All he/she remembers are the flaws you have, what you failed to do and doubts on your intentions. wondering such lines when its mid night  and your heart is so heavy. all the memories may roll in to your eyes for the one you have done a lot.its not always in a relationship. it can be any relationship where you selflessly done things, sacrifice silently. many small things perhaps you have done. went slowly when he/she was asleep. tried your best to make them happy. tried to buy their demands and left your own. cook for her/him when you saw he/she was busy in exams and need energy. tried your best to make their each and every dream true. you were strong on that time. you don't bother to stay alone. then....
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suddenly things started to change. those who appreciated you now accuse you for all the wrong reasons. you defend yourself but feel so bad as you make them your world them and it looks painful to see that you don't really exist in their lives. Each of their word show that they are ready to end with you. They take revenge when any mistake happen from you...
life is really unpredictable so the humans are :) for those you may spend your whole life till today, they don't bother if you are alive or dead. and those who you never noticed they were there smiling to you. try to be with you. try to get your attention you never gave to them.
its not your fault its not our fault. we are humans and we can predict life and relations. pains come to us unexpectedly and from unexpected relations but its life and no doubt you right now feeling like a hole in your heart. very weak, in pain and alone but your creator up there watching you and knows that what you have done and what they are doing. what you deserve and what they deserve. what pain you are facing and what gem they are losing.
may be one day they understand or if they don't , world didn't end here. there is something for you here otherwise you would not be created. someone is there who is facing same things and waiting for someone to join.
don't lose hope due to temporary things. see the life on big canvas. big ideas , big ambitions ,

when we can't laugh on a same joke 

again & again

how possibly we 

could cry on the same reason!

let it all done' and pray that things become better and be strong and calm as you are the writer of your story don't allow others to write your story make it an aspirational story which someday your grand children or others may relate when they feel sad or fed up 

what you say...

be happy :)

toxic situations leads to suicide, isn't it avoidable?

toxic situations and toxic people terrifyingly affect lives of others. even the most rational person can trap in such situation. we all have different responses according to our terms and relations with the people around us. suicide rate is increasing alarmingly. 

"why should end life

for temporary situations. "

life sometimes become hard no doubt.have you ever think why people think to end up their lives? whats going on in their mind and how you or we help others as well as ourselves to overcome such situations?

humans nature can be called a stubborn and emotional at their early 30 years of age. if they don't work on it .it  can't change the rest of the years. these years are so pure. we mostly think, understand and solve the matters with our heart, without understanding the facts, situation and use of mind. the result is heart broken, depressed, lonely, isolated, reluctant to back to life. over thinking or staying in same miserable state: why it happen to me? is this reward of all of my loyalty? how he/she could do this to me? i will never forgive them? look how much they are happy and how much i am pitiable! if such things coming in to your mind than its sure that you are depressed and in a toxic situation created by someone.

we have many examples of suicide and from an average person to a celebrates many lost their lives by mishandling of such hard situations.

"forgiving others is forgiving yourself because if you keep thinking them, remain hurt how possibly you could move forward" 

you can't force others to  treat you right but you can treat you well. value yourself. always remember that you worth more than that. sitting alone and taking pills is not your destiny. why you should punish for the bad deeds done by others.
A well known writer said:

"people don't die because of the tensions they had faced but because they fought alone. no one was there to just listen to them. just share the pain just by listening to them.if people share the burden of pain by just spending some time together, no one attempt suicide"

  accept the things which have happen, don't resist by disturbing your peace of mind: why me? etc. instead of it keep doing healthy activities 

• meet your friends in routine.
• travel to new places
• watch movies with friends or family
• share your bad feelings with closed one not with everyone otherwise they keep you stuck in that situation longer.
• do good deeds.they satisfy your soul and stitch your wounds quickly. you will feel satisfaction.
• keep or make your family bond strong. your parents are the one who are purest to you and they will guide you without any personal interests.parents are the angels we all have 
• listen positive music rather than mourning one. music make huge difference
• remove everything which reminds you about toxic people. 
• love yourself, give you a new look, a massage etc 
• change your surroundings, if someone or something takes your peace of mind, than its too much expensive.
• always remember if its in a relationship and you ruining your life for others, keep in mind that if you yourself can't love yourself why should others. but if you love and care yourself many come in your journey  

share this post to your dearest ones as everything we may don't know but they need to know that there is always someone who cares for you but at most toxic situations you fail to see and felt alone.
love u all!
the post is in the memory of Mr.Roy (18 years young boy who killed himself due to toxic messages) & actor Robin Williams.

deduct professional jealousy

have you ever felt that in your office circle how many people want to replace you. how you can identify such people and what is the best way to cope with them?


its quite easy. ever one have their own six sense to feel such weird things. well lets list some of the clues you may consider weird.

 they have good relations with your open opponents:

you may see them in cafe or in any other place together and suddenly when you arrive, their confidence reduced. they don't know how to manage the situation now in front of you. the reason behind is they were involved against you and now when you are there. they are not comfortable to deal you so special which they do in other's absence.

they try to make you stressed:

 they search your weak points and then continuously hit on the same area where they think you will be freaked and emotionally ruin everything around you.

they are extra ordinary sweet towards you:

its quite strange but mostly the people repeat the same lines again and again to make you believe. its so often . they repeat it so much and deep inside, they are trying to convince themselves that they perform well. mostly people do those things which they mostly said and promised. when someone repeat a same line without much difference sometimes its not with purity but just because they used to communicate in such a way.

they give you wrong advises:

when it comes to decision making. they will give you wrong advises. like hide things from boss. you should react aggressively about this issue.

they don't follow your instructions:

when its about team work. they give their less contribution. their interest is so dim. they repeat the same mistakes and don't consider you as your leader or boss. they try to make brotherly relations so that they can easily challenge your leadership and can get the courage to disobey you.

what you should do?

• reduce your frankness level if you think they are using it as a tool.:

• it doesn't mean that you become insulting or aggressive. you are not doing gossip. not sharing your personal data with them

• clear them that at work place you are boss not brother etc:

•  take all the record written from them
• don't much bother about their gossip or plans against you just keep working hard on your tasks.
• Remain calm these are normal things happen in work places though it just show the low stream of others and nothing about you. 

Keep shining like always :)